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Jessikah Senior Member
United Kingdom
307 posts Joined: Jul, 2006
Posted - 2006/09/23 : 22:27:49
How do i get over my ex. Honestly i havnt stoped crying for about 3 hours, i just want him back. was with him 4 13 months! someone please help me try and get him back. i really do need him in my life
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ihaveduff Advanced Member
Australia
944 posts Joined: Apr, 2005
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Posted - 2006/09/23 : 23:43:00
Just have to let it pass hun, go out with the girls and have a wikked night out, drink lots, maybe pickup a random guy as a rebound... you'll see that there are more guys than your ex hun!
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Ionosphere Advanced Member
United Kingdom
3,750 posts Joined: Dec, 2004
Posted - 2006/09/24 : 01:48:07
Without wishing to sound unsympathetic, 13 months is no time at all,
it's just that at your age it seems like a very long time.
Don't drink, don't take drugs, don't try to drown your sorrows in anything
and don't get involved with someone else on the rebound.
Put up with the pain. It will get less with time.
Live each day as it comes. Be brave and learn about yourself.
It will make you stronger and wiser and more attractive to a better man than the one you've lost.
SixFeet Advanced Member
United Kingdom
2,285 posts Joined: Jan, 2005
Posted - 2006/09/24 : 03:58:25
Time is the best healer, 13 months isn't that much. Unfortunately there isn't anyway to get him back. Just have a cry and move on to better things, trust me about 95% of people have gone through this and although at the time it seems bad later on they look back and laugh at themselves.
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JesterDJ Advanced Member
United Kingdom
1,486 posts Joined: Apr, 2003
Posted - 2006/09/24 : 05:06:08
I've not posted on here for a long ol time, basically coz i have been both a)busy, and b) couldn't be arsed. but for this case thought i'd put in my tupence worth.
I (along with countless others) understand where your coming from, but allow me to give a quick low down of the first time i was in this situation.
I was 17 or 18 i think, and i was with this girl for about 10 months give or take. Thought that more happiness was not a possibility, it was all fantastic, then one day it all went wrong, things never felt the same after that as much as i tried to salvage it. Then she went on a week long family holiday which gave me much needed breathing/thinking space.
When she came back, i broke up with her. In one way, i really REALLY didn't want to, because anything in life without her was so....unknown and scary. the idea of going on without her was so alien it was almost like being told to get on with life with breathing, literally. it was so confusing but the only reason i went through with it was down to the words of EVERYONE that looked onto my relationship with her; close friends and family.
Well to cut it short, it was awful, for about the next 3 months i think (possibly more) i couldn't take the photo of me and her together off my wall, (regardless of all the swearing and threats and degrading comments from her). And yes i'll gladly admit, i shed many a tear thinking it was the wrong thing to do and i longed for her back so much it hurt.
skipping over a lot of crap as this was meant to be a low down, i now look back on it all and when she enters my head, every time, without fail, i shudder at the thought of being back with her and putting up with her.
every year i grew older the more ridiculous i thought of myself, but i don't regret it all because i had great times, and then learnt the hard, but best way how to get over the come down. It does make you stronger, Ionosphere is absolutely right, i agree with everything he has said.
Give it time; it may take a fair old while, but it WILL get easier and not because you forget but because you learn what other great people are out there.
Be lucky babe, and i sincerely hope this helped.
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Sk8SiM Advanced Member
United Kingdom
1,293 posts Joined: Nov, 2004
Posted - 2006/09/24 : 05:14:25
quote:Originally posted by Ionosphere:
Be brave and learn about yourself.
It will make you stronger and wiser and more attractive to a better man than the one you've lost.
....and smile.
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I Don't need to say anything else... it would just be on the same lines as Ionosphere (Only half a page long!)
Dude are you my long lost twin or something!!!
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reenz Advanced Member
Australia
928 posts Joined: Sep, 2005
Posted - 2006/09/24 : 08:51:20
quote:Originally posted by Ionosphere:
Without wishing to sound unsympathetic, 13 months is no time at all,
it's just that at your age it seems like a very long time.
Don't drink, don't take drugs, don't try to drown your sorrows in anything
and don't get involved with someone else on the rebound.
Put up with the pain. It will get less with time.
Live each day as it comes. Be brave and learn about yourself.
It will make you stronger and wiser and more attractive to a better man than the one you've lost.
....and smile.
x
thats it! whenever i need advice im asking Ionosphere :)
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Jessikah Senior Member
United Kingdom
307 posts Joined: Jul, 2006
Posted - 2006/09/24 : 11:30:21
I do understand were your all coming from, but i think the thing that hurts me the most is that he still says he loves me, it all happened yesterday,
Then last night i got a email off him saying that i should go round his tonight, so i said okay, becuase there is alot of stuff that needs sorted out.
Its his aunties wedding next saturday. And told me last night that i am going to that full stop, which i think is abit werid. He is acting as if we are still together, hes even taking me shopping on monday night after work.
i think this is hurting me even more especially since we are acting like this and he is saying maybe if we act like we are, we will just get back together with out relising it.
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Jessikah Senior Member
United Kingdom
307 posts Joined: Jul, 2006
Posted - 2006/09/24 : 11:44:40
Because on friday night, we were meant to be going out with a few people. I had been with my mates all day so when he rang, i was like ill ring you back in ten. then as soon as i got off the phone my mam rang so i was on the fone to her for ages and totally forgot to ring him back.
We ended up going to my mates house and i fell asleep and didnt go home.
I have just recently got over a drinking problem, so he thinks i was drinking that night, which i wasnt.
but overall his reason is that he loves me to much and that he thinks i lie.
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Posted - 2006/09/23 : 22:27:49
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