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KiNky-BaBe-LoZz
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 Posted - 2006/05/21 : 14:41:52
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Originally posted by Smoogie:
There is a girl who I am really good friends with who I have started to fancy- alot! She is really pretty and we get along well and we will always be there for each other.
She was recently used and is just trying to recover the loss of anotehr friend. These factors make it hard for me to tell her how I feel. If I was with her I would always care for her and never let her down.
Any advice? 
i really wouldn't to be fair mate, i have a friends who really fancies me and because he's told me it makes things between us kind of awkward. sometimes its good, if u were 2 get together and break up you'd have you're friendship 2 fall back on but it may be 2 difficult 2 stay friends.
my advice is don't, unless you think she feels the same way
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SixFeet
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 Posted - 2006/05/21 : 15:45:55
it all depends on the situation, i once told my best mate that i fancied her and well that was the end of that friendship pretty much which i regret now. wheras in 6th form i was great mates with a lass and i am 99% sure she liked me but i never said anything that i liked her too (wasn't crazy about her but liked her anyways) and now i regret that to seeing as even if it would have gone somewhere and ended sour i don't see her anymore as she is an uni
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Chris B
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Posted - 2006/05/21 : 15:54:14
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Originally posted by SixFeet:
It's not rape, It's suprise sex!
anno you've had that sig a while but has to be said, its classic
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Smoogie
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 Posted - 2006/05/21 : 16:40:52
Here is the update- We are going to see a movie (as friends) I am not going to make a move, just 'see what happens' I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship as she means so much to me. 
I am also not going to make a ritual like once before to win back someone esle (I didn't work)
I also invite her out all the time. We are planning my 19th birthday party together (July 31st, I will be on the forums for my beats that day)
Thanks for the advice- I am going to 'play it cool' for the time being... 
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Hard Daze
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Posted - 2006/05/21 : 16:53:08
Smoogie I'd advise that you talk to her everyday and hang out with her as much as possible. If you make it obvious that you care about her as a gf she will pick up on that and hint that she feels the same, then it'l be easier to speak up on your feelings. If you feel an overwhelming desire for the girl, I say you should tell her, because if you keep it inside it'll drive you insane.
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djDMS
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Posted - 2006/05/21 : 17:06:29
I was going to read through the whole topic but i'm too busy pissing myself at Leeds losing to Watford (BWAHAHAHAHAHAHA)!
So i'll just add this small note.
Would you rather have her as a friend than not see her at all, or would you be prepared to risk your friendship on the (probably slight) chance that you might have a worthwhile relationship with her?
You say you'll "always be there for each other" - you might think so but things can change so quickly when sex becomes involved.
What some of the lads has said is right - being friends first can help a relationship, but it also means it's virtually impossible to remain friends should it not work out.
Luckily for me, most women i have "known" have wanted to be friends with me afterwards. But hey, some of us have it, some don't....... ;)
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Ionosphere
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Posted - 2006/05/21 : 17:19:42
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Originally posted by Ionosphere:
....unless of course you're cold-blooded and selfish enough to simply take advantage of the situation.
i have to disagree with that mate, without knowing this lass how do you no it's taking advantage.
Fair enough but the point is we don't know the girl.
The Smoog does, so he has to ask himself, 'Am I taking advantage?"
If so.... that's the point.
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Chris B
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Posted - 2006/05/21 : 17:23:03
100% agreed then mate
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Ionosphere
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Posted - 2006/05/21 : 17:37:11
....also, there's quite a few posts here about missed opportunities and most seem to regret it,
presuming that it could have been so good.
ahh.... I didn't miss one particular opportunity....
with hindsight I wish that I had.
Presuming that it would have worked is foolish. It probably didn't happen for a good reason.
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Underloop
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Posted - 2006/05/21 : 20:25:38
My advice...... let fate take its course. Don't try and force something, just do whatever comes naturally. As Ionosphere said - missed opportunities were probably missed for a reason.
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Knightmare
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Posted - 2006/05/21 : 20:39:54
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Originally posted by 1up:
:O i couldve made the biggest boo boo of my life?!
i clearly didnt think about that when i first met her.
here goes 1up's 1st long post xD
it started last year. life was shibby and school didnt make thing any better. my bro (the nimwitted computer game doofas) screwed up his HSC/UAE mark (the mark u need to go to uni). my parents were fed up with my laziness and the crappy school (which was filled with wogs =/, bass high school it was called) i went to, so they decided to move me! and what do u know? i got moved to a school no where near my old school (which give me a fresh start and a new profile) and i found people like me (asians xD, i could never find any at my old school, it was awkward...). blimey this place was full of them! and situated right near cabramatta (asians paradise if u dont know australia NSW too well...) i enrolled there and left my old school without a trace. which was great! apparently i was a gaybo in that school which made my life feel like hell! i didnt have much friends there either (lol loner =/). and no guy likes to be called gay -_-' damn was i a depressed little bugger (theKid day's)
the summer holidays came! i bummed around at home... not doing much cause imma low life xD...
ah 2006! new school! new life! first few days were awkward... arent they always?
on my 2nd day i got introduced to a bunch of whackos o0 and eventually i became one of them xD it was strange there... yet great! first time hanging around girls which was a first for me! there were 4 dudes and 8 gals in the group and we all had our turf. damn the chicks were prettifool xD i took notice of 2 girls in the group, but there was this one quiet little girl who always hung around.
it was wierd. i got presents for the 2 girls on valentines day and ignored the other one. i dunno what happened but eventually i developed an interest for the cute quiet one. i got her cookies and candy for white day and this time ignoring the other 2 girls... heh! makes me laugh sometimes...
during that week... someone threatened to bash me.. it was damn funny... he got me msn mail from that girl... i dunno what happened but i got annoyed at her... that little bugger kept spammin me it was so damn funny! i blocked him and i blocked her and didnt talk to her for a week...
she found out i had blocked her and she got upset. i panicked. i didnt know what i was feeling... but i apologised to her... my liking for her grew and someone had told me she liked me...
it was wierd alright! anyways, our group planned on going ice skating... i used this to my advantage by pretending not to go, and trying to get her to persuade me to go. i asked her "give me a good excuse why i should go"... and was looking for an answer like "because i love you"... it was a mean little trick but she ended up saying "i like you" which was close enough. things turned out strange and for some reason i got upset at myself for being an ass. but i still went iceskating. it was like a date, but with poeple. that night she said "i love you" and i didnt know what to think... i guess i was on cloud 9... i said i love you back, and i asked her out. it was at 01:02am 03seconds 04/05/06 that we became bf/gf hehehe radical date innit? hahah
weve been together for 2 weeks now and im quite glad i met her. things are grand for me right now! im glad i have her to support me through tough times >< i just had me half yearly tests and it was awful! but with her i got through it!
when i read this thread u people had me worried... u know what? im gonna take this chance, like Ard2theCore said "Live life for the moment" i will do just that! but i ent gonna be like that lustful little bugger! ide say im more love than lust. and i will love her xD and wen wii gwow up wair gonna git mawweed!!! xD heheeh and they lived happily ever after!
hahahah getting abit dreamy there xD and u know what? ive been yapping about myself for this whole post! ahhahahaha....
smoogie! go for it! and dont look back!!! (maybe those few words couldve done this post good :P hahah 8 words: 342words LOL)
and I thought this kind of shit only happened in crappy teen chick-flicks...
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Knightmare
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Posted - 2006/05/21 : 20:46:40
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Originally posted by Hard Daze:
Smoogie I'd advise that you talk to her everyday and hang out with her as much as possible. If you make it obvious that you care about her as a gf she will pick up on that and hint that she feels the same, then it'l be easier to speak up on your feelings. If you feel an overwhelming desire for the girl, I say you should tell her, because if you keep it inside it'll drive you insane.
Hanging out with em every day can seriously backfire. you'll run the risk of becoming "the Friend". you know, the guy she shares all her problems with, the one she can always rely on... the one she bitches to when her new boyfriend turns out to be a jackass.
you'll be the guy that she'll use as reference for the fact that there are still nice guys in the world but you'll never be the guy she'd go out with.
so, even in spending time with em if you really like em, moderation is the keyword.
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SixFeet
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Posted - 2006/05/21 : 21:14:21
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Originally posted by djDMS:
Luckily for me, most women i have "known" have wanted to be friends with me afterwards. But hey, some of us have it, some don't....... ;)
yes because 'having it' mean women break up with you in the first place......
i know what you mean though i have it to but fortunately it can be treated with antibiotics these days
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Sk8SiM
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Posted - 2006/05/22 : 01:37:27
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Originally posted by Knightmare:
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Originally posted by Hard Daze:
Smoogie I'd advise that you talk to her everyday and hang out with her as much as possible. If you make it obvious that you care about her as a gf she will pick up on that and hint that she feels the same, then it'l be easier to speak up on your feelings. If you feel an overwhelming desire for the girl, I say you should tell her, because if you keep it inside it'll drive you insane.
Hanging out with em every day can seriously backfire. you'll run the risk of becoming "the Friend". you know, the guy she shares all her problems with, the one she can always rely on... the one she bitches to when her new boyfriend turns out to be a jackass.
you'll be the guy that she'll use as reference for the fact that there are still nice guys in the world but you'll never be the guy she'd go out with.
so, even in spending time with em if you really like em, moderation is the keyword.
100% Agree
"Absence makes the heart grow fonder"
Did your mom never teach you that 
It’s also good to remember that evan when you’re in a relationship...
If you can't spend a day away from each other... its never healthy... spes if say, you keep arguing...
When you spend a few days away from each other... and then see each other again... it brings back to spice to the relationship as you'll have stuff to talk about and you'll just be spending every second with each other as you've missed each other so much for that little break...
My advice tho...
DON'T TELL HER YOU LIKE HER!!!
Only hint it…
With say… your body lang and the odd wise but cheesy joke (I’m sure you’ve got a good sense of humour)... – basically letting her know you’re interested but not in a blatant way…
There does tend to be shortcuts to this goal tho
If she starts giving the cheesy jokes back… YOUR IN!!!
But at the end of the day, come on... you ent in pri school anymore... I still don't understand why some grown men still "ask girls out"
With me I just go with the flow... become close to a girl... and see if you can “connect” with her (very important)...you just go with the flow and one thing leads to another...
next thing you know your cuddling up in bed telling each other how much you care about each other (this is were ALL the feelings get expressed and it all just comes flooding out naturally)
Then what do you know... the next day you’re in a relationship...
There’s no way you can sit down and question yourself about… if you want to be in a relationship or if you think you’re "in love"
You don't choice love... it just happens... and you just know it when you are...
Besides... you only live once... and you've got your whole life ahead of you... like others have said if its ment to be... its ment to be... i.e. "just go with the flow!!!!"
Evan if you fall out and I know this will sound horrible... but it’s just the truth...
YOU'VE GOT YOUR WHOLE LIFE AHEAD OF YOU!!!
People will come in and out of your life... and you'll bound to get hurt along the way and loose really close friends... sometimes evan GREAT PEOPLE that have changed your life around… but hey its just life…
(Look at your parents for example… they ent gonna be around forever – yet to you, I’m sure there great people and mean MORE then the world to you)
End of the day its ^^^THIS^^^ that matures us in the first place and makes us who we are as people as we grow up and live trough life...
And its ^^^^ ALL THIS ^^^^ that courses someone to be attracted to you in the first place... after all it’s your personality that makes a person shine and where the real attraction lies
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So don't ever look back and regret anything... spes when you've got chances like these ahead of you...
End of the day… NO ONE SOULD EVER HIDE THERE FEELINGS!!!
And there more then one way to express them…
Hiding things is the same thing as “bottling it up”
^^^we all know where that road ends”
Yep… a huge as breakdown, panic attack or HUGE STRESS at your close friends over something stupid… its all gotta go somewhere mate…
You only live once… life is to short… SO GO OUT AND LIVE IT!!!!
And stop worrying about what may happen… cuse you never know, intill you do it!!!!
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Posted - 2006/05/22 : 07:34:25
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Originally posted by Sk8SiM:
edit: *incredibly long speech*
ahhahahah someone beat me!!!
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Originally posted by Knightmare:
and I thought this kind of shit only happened in crappy teen chick-flicks...
u make that sound like a bad thing... :(
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